Accepting Disappointment in Love
By Father Ronald Rolheiser
(CatholicNews---Sunday August 5, 2007)

The first task of a couple in marriage is to console each other for the fact that they cannot not disappoint each other. That's an important insight.

No matter how deep a union, we always remain separate, two persons who cannot really ever, in this life, make just one heart, one mind, and one body. No love or friendship ever fully takes away our separateness.

It's when we demand not to be disappointed that we grow angry, make unrealistic demands, and put pressure on each other.

Conversely, when we recognize the limits of love, when we accept an inevitable separateness, moral loneliness, and disappointment, we can begin to console each other in our friendships and our marriages.

tis is jus so me, isn't it?
gibing pressure everywhere.
expecting this and that from ppl ard me.
wilful, stubborn and childish.
alrite alrite!
shall kick away this nasty, bad habit!
(: